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Finding Your Sense of Self for Personal Growth

Sheila J. Highland



Finding Your Sense of Self for Personal Growth

“This truly is the time for humanity to change the course of their lives, evolve, and experience heaven on Earth.”

Having a strong sense of self provides us with emotional fortitude and personal empowerment. Life is better when we experience life as sovereign beings. Having a sense of self allows us to navigate the world with confidence and autonomy.

What if we have yet to find our true self? Can we gain a sense of self while surrounded by global turbulence? Can we find our center and take charge of our spiritual journey when the world is spinning?

Many of us are feeling anxiety, despair, and hopelessness because we are energetically connected to each other and to the world. Our collective consciousness is reflecting our fears, attitudes, opinions, and disbelief.

As the stress builds, our collective consciousness responds in kind. We find ourselves trapped in a pattern that is very difficult to escape and we can find ourselves in a tailspin. We have our independent tailspin and we are part of the collective tailspin. This is where many of us find ourselves now.


Finding Your Sense of Self for Personal Growth


A Place Between Worlds for Your Sense of Self

There is good news, however. We are at a place now between worlds, between eras where the next Golden Age awaits us. We each have an opportunity to heal our pain and step into the truth of who we are. Healed of the human experience and with a sense of our self, we can contribute to the new world.

This is the spiritual journey we signed on for at this exact time in our human evolution. 

The goal is to attain spiritual growth and ascension by living a soul conscious life. We are born to have an embodied soul experience here on Earth. We are part of the new destiny creating heaven on Earth. We intuitively know is it our divine birthright.

The human experience is one that allows us free will and free choice. Our soul group, angels and guides can offer gentle guidance, but they cannot interfere with our free will. This is cosmic law.

The free will choices we make independently and unconsciously can often produce less than desirable results leaving an imprint of karmic wounds that will require reconciliation before they can be released. The lessons are never intended to be punitive, but they are intended to teach us to choose better as we mature.

Healing With Remote Connections

Karmic reconciliation does not have to be done in “real time” and physically experienced. Your intention to heal, supported by the gifts of a skilled healer and powerful modalities, will aid you to identify, release, and heal the wounds of karma.

This will set you on your path enabling you to give to the collective from your healed heart. Your soul group and the cosmic hierarchy will celebrate your win and welcome you to the path of light worker, able to be in service to others.

A best use of free will and free choice is to heal your life. You come into this world contracted with your soul, your soul group, and individual soul’s to learn, grow, and ascend on the ladder of evolution. This truly is the time for humanity to change the course of their lives, evolve, and experience heaven on Earth.


Finding Your Sense of Self for Personal Growth


The key is simple, but not necessarily easy. We all need help to make the journey. A guide, mentor, healer, mystic and/or shaman can awaken our intuition and natural self-healing abilities that may be dormant having atrophied over time.

The connection we have with each other allows us to join our intentions and receive healing and support through a remote connection. We are joined on this planet during this time to collectively create a better world.

We don’t need to travel physically to contribute or receive love, grace and healing. We can be together remotely and joined outside of time and space simultaneously. It is the high vibrational, healing remote connections that will take us forward.

My experience as a healer gives me absolute faith that all will be well. We are on the threshold of a new beginning. We will know peace, love, and joy. To be here now, to experience renewal with beautiful souls, and to celebrate our collective success will be a miracle come true.

Now more than ever, we can’t be distracted by the outside world. We need to stay committed to finding and maintaining our sovereignty. This in service to ourselves and to the rest of the world.

Original article by Stacia Zadra.

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The 5 Stages of Spiritual Awakening We All Need To Learn

Sheila J. Highland



The 5 Stages of Spiritual Awakening We All Need To Learn

While a spiritual awakening is often considered a journey, it’s not necessarily a journey of physical travel or pilgrimage; it’s a process of going beyond your boundaries and taking the next evolutionary step.

In the course of a human life, few experiences can be as profound and transformative as those of a spiritual awakening. Identifying with and directly experiencing your divinity represents a paradigm shift of the highest order. A spiritual awakening has the potential to rip apart the fabric of reality as you’ve known it and pull you forward into a new life of conscious growth and evolution.

As the term implies, you “wake up” from the dream of everyday, mundane material-level, ego-based awareness to a higher reality of spirit. And as if emerging from a deep sleep, you can see the dream for what it is—an illusion to which there can be no going back.


The 5 Stages of Spiritual Awakening We All Need To Learn


Escaping Ignorance

A spiritual awakening represents the lifting of the veil of ignorance or avidya, which in Sanskrit means “incorrect understanding.” This ignorance shrouds your true nature and keeps you operating in the dark of lower levels of consciousness. This is a state of not knowing what you don’t know.

At the heart of this ignorance is tamas, one of the three gunas, or primary qualities of the universe. Tamas embodies darkness, dullness, inactivity, and entropy and binds you in the physical, mental, and emotional quicksand of inertia. Fortunately, though, the process of spiritual awakening runs directly counter to the currents of avidya in your life.

The evolution of consciousness generates a forward pull, a momentum toward growth, transformation, and change that is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Like a spaceship achieving escape velocity, spiritual awakening punches you out of the limiting gravity well of ignorance and on toward the ultimate destination of cosmic self-realization.

But how does this happen? Well, if you accept that all human beings, and perhaps even all sentient beings, are hardwired for evolution, then it stands to reason that spiritual awakening is your birthright—something you are destined to achieve. And if this process is mapped into your consciousness and your body, then there must be clues or steps to indicate you are on the path to awakening.

The Vision of Your Spiritual Awakening Journey

One of the most useful metaphors for describing the stages of spiritual awakening is that of vision. In this model, five different qualities of sight represent unique steps on the spiritual journey:

  1. Glimpsing: The call to adventure
  2. Closer examination: Choosing a path
  3. Seeking: Following the path
  4. Loss of sight: Losing the path
  5. Seeing: Merging with the path

Let’s explore each of these stages in greater detail.

1. Glimpsing Spirit: The Call to Adventure

The celebrated mythologist Joseph Campbell defined what is known as the hero’s journey, an evolutionary path of growth and transformation woven into all great myths and stories: “When we quit thinking about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness.”

At the start of any hero’s journey is the primary pushing off point known as the call to adventure. The call to adventure represents a break from everyday life, a signal that bubbles up from the subconscious, catches your attention, and leads you in a new direction. A call to adventure is the spark that triggers a spiritual awakening.

Every life has a moment, if seized, that will change that life forever. The call to adventure is an awakening incident, a new perception that compels you to look at life differently. This spiritual experience can take countless forms—a trip to a faraway land, the loss of innocence, an illness, a challenge, the death of a close friend, a near-death experience, or the loss of a job.

Regardless of the particulars, the experience shakes your worldview and you see the world with new eyes. You are called to live the ordinary life in a non-ordinary way.

At this pivotal point, Joseph Campbell teaches that you face a choice, to either accept or refuse the call to adventure. In reality though, refusing the call truly isn’t an option, because at the deeper level, your own soul is beckoning you to transform.

If you refuse the call, thanks to your unique karmic influences, the opportunity will only recycle itself like a skip on a record, patiently waiting for you to accept the call to a new life.

In addition, once a transformative and deeply awakening incident has been experienced, there can be no going back. Your eyes have been opened and you can’t un-see the vision of the higher reality calling to you, no matter how much you might want to deny it.

Once you have answered the call to adventure, you step into a larger world. You become a conscious participant in your spiritual growth and evolution. Responsibility becomes the operative word as you begin to navigate your life toward opportunities that further expand your awareness. A subtle shift in perception has taken place and everything feels the same and oddly different simultaneously.


The 5 Stages of Spiritual Awakening We All Need To Learn


2. Closer Examination: Choosing a Path

Faced with the realization that your limited worldview can no longer contain your expanding awareness, you come to recognize that your life is on a spiritual journey, an awakening of your consciousness.

While it can be an exciting time, this stage can also feel unsettling and unfamiliar. Everything you once accepted as fixed and stable (ideologies, worldviews, sense of self and others, relationships) can be called into question. You are in search of answers—a means by which you can repeat or return to the glimpse of spirit that initially shifted your perspective.

At this point, you may set out to find a new way—a new philosophy, a different tradition, or practice that will help to contextualize or re-map your worldview. This is when many begin spiritual exploration in earnest.

Often marked by a period of information gathering, self-study, and delving into world religions or psychology, you are drawn to practices and methods that align with your unique personalities and dispositions. According to Vedanta, there are four paths or yogas back to the unity you seek:

  1. Bhakti Yoga: The path of love and devotion
  1. Jnana Yoga: The path of science and the intellect
  2. Karma Yoga: The path of action and selfless service
  1. Raja Yoga: The path of meditation and all its related disciplines

Each path provides a distinctive vehicle for self-discovery and realization. Some may choose one, others may explore multiple paths simultaneously; there are no absolutes or set rules for discovering your path.

What matters is that it feels right for you and serves as an appropriate vehicle for growth. No one can or should tell you what path to follow; only your own intuitive heart can guide you to what method or vehicle will suit you best.

At this stage you would do well to remember the wisdom of the Hindu proverb that states:
There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading to the same place, so it doesn’t matter which path you take. The only person wasting time is the one who runs around the mountain, telling everyone that his or her path is wrong.

3. Seeking: Following the Path

The next stage calls you to be a spiritual seeker. Having found your path, regular practice, study, and discipline serve to take you deeper toward the greater vision of expanded awareness. The Sanskrit term for the discipline of spiritual practice is sadhana.

Sadhana is the spiritual routine that takes your practice from an isolated exercise to a way of life. You are dedicated travelers on the path, familiar with its twists and turns, up and downs. As your practice deepens, you become increasingly more adept and more knowledgeable, not only of the tradition or practice you follow but also of yourself.

This stage is marked by the birth of self-referral, the process in which your identity begins to shift from external references (such as positions, possessions, and ego satisfactions) to the internal reference of stillness, intuition, and higher guidance. You know yourself as a spiritual being living a human life while fostering the progressive growth of your consciousness.

As you travel their path to expanded awareness, there are two markers, two clues that hint spiritual progress is underway.

  1. The first is an increasing sense of lightheartedness. With consistent spiritual practice, happiness and joy become your ground state. You take life less seriously. Hysteria and melodrama have less influence over you. Carefreeness and detachment flow from you spontaneously and you feel much more at ease in life.

2. The second marker of spiritual progress is the ease in which your desires are fulfilled. Regular spiritual practice removes mental, physical, and energetic blockages that obstruct the manifestation of your desires. As these obstacles fall away, life becomes easier; you step into the flow of life and experience synchronicities, little miracles, and experiences of grace that lead you closer to your life’s spiritual purpose.

4. Loss of Sight: Losing the Path

The spiritual path is not without struggle, however. By its very nature, the path of awakening confronts you with your shortcomings, self-deceptions, cognitive biases, and resistance to change. Growth can be an uncomfortable process at times.

As your chosen path challenges you to change thoughts, emotions, speech, or behavior to be more expansive, compassionate, forgiving, or kind, it is not uncommon to struggle with being in this world but not of it. Worse yet are the external influences that assault the spiritual seeker with temptations to give up the quest for awakening and return to a conventional life.

The most formidable challenges on the path come in the form of what Joseph Campbell called threshold guardians. Threshold guardians are the barriers (literal or symbolic) that stand in the way of important turning points in your life.

They can be enemies, rivals, life circumstances, limiting beliefs, or setbacks that block your progress forward toward a higher level. These antagonists can repeatedly knock you down, test your resolve, and make you question your chosen path. Such setbacks make you doubt yourself and your commitment and may even persuade you to give up the quest.

At this stage, you may feel lost or helpless, as if you have succumbed to spiritual blindness. However, what you often don’t realize is that this blindness or challenges are the subterfuge of your ego—your small self that fears its own extinction in the ever-expanding field of spirit.

Seen in this way, your spiritual challenges, or dark nights of the soul, become as spiritual teacher Ram Dass would say, “grist for the mill of enlightenment.” Every setback then becomes an expression of your inner doubts and fears—trials and hurdles on your personalized and self-made obstacle course.

Undoubtedly, this stage requires both fortitude and courage to stay on the path as you remember poet Robert Frost’s words: “The only way out is through.” Fortunately, it is from this darkness that you can emerge fully into the light, continue your spiritual development, and become awakened.


The 5 Stages of Spiritual Awakening We All Need To Learn


5. Seeing: Merging with the Path

At last, the seeker breaks through to a new stage; visionary, transcendent, and sight beyond sight. At this level you have gone beyond sadhana; you have become the practice. No longer striving to see, you exist in a state of unity in which seer, scenery, and that which is seen merge.

A permanent shift has taken place and you awaken fully to your true identity—the infinite, immortal, unbounded, God-force existing everywhere and in everything. You wake up fully to being the divine observer—the ever-present witness-self of the entire universe.

In this stage, you come back home to yourself, but surprisingly, the process isn’t one of accumulation or gaining more knowledge or experiences. Instead, it’s a process letting go, of continual decrease.

Like peeling the skins of an onion, the “you” gets smaller and smaller until only pure being-ness remains. It’s a journey of insight from here to HERE. This is the sign of spiritual awakening.

The path of spiritual awakening is the grandest adventure you can ever undertake. You are deeply privileged just to recognize the truth that such a journey stands before you. And embracing it is nothing less than following the heroic call of your life purpose and destiny.

Original article by Adam Brady.

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25 Empowerment Quotes – Words of Wisdom We Need Now

Shari A. Hembree



25 Empowerment Quotes - Words of Wisdom We Need Now

Find inspiration from these empowerment quotes…

An artist and a businesswoman, Shari A. Hembree is also a Reiki Master Teacher. She is an author of authenticity and spiritualism. Her first book, Journey of the Lightworker is a breakthrough and speaks of spiritual truths. To get more of the positivity, here are Shari Hembree quotes to keep us empowered. Learn to believe in yourself from these quotes.


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Empowerment Quotes On Honesty


“A miracle occurs when we shift our perception of a situationand no longer give it the power of our thoughts.”


“Be a reflection of what you’d like to see in others. If you want love, give love. If you want honesty, be honest. If you want respect, be respectful. You get in return what you give.”


In the midst of our fears, we will find our source of power and strength. It’s time to feel wmpowered again.”


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“When you open your heart, you create a shift in your vibration. This allows your talents and gifts to blossom.”


“Genuine love is not just about me, it’s about we. There are two parts to any successful relationship. You do deserve the best—your equal.”


“Don’t be stuck in the past. Forgiveness is the key to moving your life forward.”


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Empowerment Quotes by Shari Hembree


“Into me I see = Intimacy, Take time to know yourself on a deep intimate level.”


Love is no doubt one of the most powerful forces in our world. It helps us attract everything thast’s positive and good into our lives. But without loving ourselves first, no one else can love us either.”


“Never be afraid to do what your heart tells you is good. Your internal guidance system is divinely inspired.”


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“Follow your bliss and share your talents to the world! That’s the moment you discover your life’s true purpose.”


“Learn from your mistakes. They are not stumbling blocks but building blocks. You got this!”


“Lightworkers have a special purpose: To help mankind heal from the effects of fear-based thoughts and to instead make decisions from a place of love. Are you a lightworker?”


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Famous Empowerment Quotes by Shari Hembree


“My mother always told me. ‘Don’t get into too much trouble.’ Bu half the fun is stepping out into the unknown and just seeing what happens.”


“Own it! Open wide now, I trust!”


“Perseverance has taught me well. To act with confidence even when I didn’t know how I’d accomplish something.”


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“I will make decisions based on what my heart tells me is good–and not let the opinions of others determine my worth.”


“Iwas given some great advice: ‘Don’t be eye candy, when you can be soul food.'”


“Love is your spirutual fuel. Set your soul on fire and passionately show your love to the world.”


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Life can be tough. But there is always room for positivity. This empowerment quotes by Shari Hembreewill give us something to think about. It eases our soul. Keep these empowerment quotes for daily guidance. You’ll find yourself getting a better view of life from these empowerment quotes. Be empowered and keep believing in yourself.

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4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance

Shari A. Hembree



4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance

Here’s an insight into making the world a better place. Let us all learn from the expert…

I was reminded this past week of a very important spiritual concept: The world is an abundant place. The idea of abundance seems straightforward, but do we really believe the idea that there’s more than enough to go around for everyone?

To be abundant means to be plentiful and prosperous—to have enough of what you desire. So why would we choose to view our world from a place of inadequacy or scarcity instead?

Have you found yourself getting up in the morning, then immediately rushing around, and soon you are focusing your attention on what isn’t going right in your day? You become frustrated, and then your day just seems to spiral out of control.

Things seem to keep getting worse as the day progresses, and all because you’re focusing on the “lack” or the negative aspects of your life: what you can’t get done, what went wrong yesterday, and what you aren’t able to accomplish today. You feel you lack an abundance of time to do the things you want to do. To transform that into something positive, I challenge you to say, “The world is an abundant place” and shift your perspective.

It’s true that we all have insanely busy lives these days. There’s so much more to do than our linear view of time will allow us to accomplish. To make matters worse, we desire things we think we’ll never attract because we’re not deserving of them. We think there’s not enough “good stuff” out there to go around, so perhaps focusing on less, not more, is the right solution.

I’d love to change your thoughts to “the world is an abundant place” and help you believe that God intends for you to have everything you desire – love, money, health, time, etc. So how do we change our thought patterns?

Below are some tools in making the world a better place:


4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance


1. Start your day by taking a deep breath and finding fifteen minutes in the morning to focus your attention on your abundance.

This will be the most important fifteen minutes of your day. Breathe deeply and do a short meditation—be grateful for every wonderful thing you’ve attracted into your life thus far.

2. Think about the positive things you expect to attract.

Notice I use the word “expect”—not what you “would like” to attract. The Law of Attraction dictates that by setting an expectation and then “feeling” that you already have these new things in your life . . . you automatically begin to attract them, because you believe they will occur. This does take a bit of practice, but in the midst of our crazy schedules, it can be a very powerful tool to shift your thoughts and transform your life.

Each evening, take ten minutes to write in a journal of gratitude. Jot down all the things you accomplished that day and the abundance you’ve already attracted into your life. Keep a list of what you expect to attract and plan out steps to make it happen.

For example, if it’s a relationship you desire, write down the wonderful qualities of that special person and how he or she would treat you. Imagine the feeling of being happy because this person has come into your life. Know that person is just around the corner because you deserve him or her! Find meaning in making the world a better place.

3. Be grateful for every person who asks you out on a date—even if he or she does not become ‘the one’ you envision dating.

Write in your journal the wonderful qualities of the person you attracted. Don’t view the person as “lacking” what you desire; instead, appreciate that person’s kindness. Tell them so, too, even if your answer is no.


4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance


4. Write in your gratitude journal every evening to show your appreciation for all the things you’ve attracted thus far.

There is more than enough abundance in the world, and you don’t have to settle for less than you desire! Shine your Light in every situation, and you will attract more of what you desire.

Remember, the world is an abundant place because you opened yourself up to receiving it. You’ll find that making the world a better place is not so hards at all.

Have a week filled with amazing joy and abundance my friends! XO Shari A. Hembree, Author

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5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself

Sheila J. Highland



“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein

How much of the time is the authentic YOU showing up in the world?

Do you have a different persona for your work, home life, friends, strangers, and the check-in person at the airport?

Stress, grief, past or current pain or trauma, illness, or anxiety can cause us to retreat inward.

Just like preparing a house to survive the impact of a hurricane, we can close the shutters, protect fragile points of entry, conserve resources, stock up on necessities, and retreat inside.

If you have found yourself hiding the real you from the world, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Unless you are age four or under, crafting an ever-shifting-persona is a natural protection mechanism.

We learn as we grow-up that opening up and being authentic can lead to a slug of pain and a slap of heartache. Intuitively we find out what psychologists have tested to be true: people like those who mimic or mirror their body language. People also find it easier to like those who are similar or share the same interests and passions.

So is it any wonder that all at once everyone is wearing the same color of teal or using the same slang? Is it a surprise that individuals in a group can converge in dress, tastes, interests, and values?

Here are steps to opening up and be more of yourself towards others:


5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself


Step 1: Find Your Joy

Can you name five concrete experiences that bring you joy?

Joy is delight fused with serenity and evokes a sense of connection to others, nature, or the divine. Joy is playful and generous.

The first step towards opening up and being authentically you is to uncover what brings you joy. List at least five experiences which bring joy into your life on a daily basis.

Next, you can explore and remember what caused a flash of unexpected joy in the past few months. Recall moments of bliss from your life and write them down too.

List at least five surprises which bring joy into your life sporadically.

Be warned against ascribing to your cultural or familial imprinted definitions of delight. Whereas joy for everyone around you could be a rainbow sprinkled ice-cream cone, for you, it could be a cup of tea and dramatic rain clouds shifting across the sky.

Looking for some daily joy-list inspiration? Here’s my daily joy-list:

1. The first sip of espresso in the morning.
2. Strolling barefoot through the dew-covered grass and examining my garden.
3. Laughter or delight (anyone’s around me, or mine).
4. An unexpected bright dash of color and white space.
5. A smile from a someone I don’t know.
6. Hugs.
7. Listening to the rhythmic breath of my sleeping children.
8. Writing.

9. Chocolate and a captivating book.
10. The last ten minutes of yoga.

Looking for some irregular joy-list inspiration? Here’s my sporadic joy-list:

1. Breathing fresh air and taking a break from the digital while hiking up a mountain, or skiing down one.
2. A day spent swimming in the lake and then picnicking on the shore.
3. Seeing someone I love who lives far away again.
4. Dressing up to celebrate someone.
5. Mastering a new skill.
6. Connecting with someone new, or someone dear, in a deeper way.
7. Going dancing.

8. Cutting and arranging fresh-cut flowers or greenery from my garden.
9. Giving the perfect gift or crafting the perfect experience for someone.
10. Spending a day walking and playing in the woods.

Ready to make your own personalized joy-lists?


5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself


Step 2: Schedule in More Joy Moments

It turns out, you can actually add more joy to your life at little cost. Who knew?

By scheduling more of what brings YOU joy into your life, you will be

illuminating the authentic you; you’ll begin to be more of you with everyone, everywhere you go.

The truth is that joy is contagious. The positive energy bounces off you and out into the world. People around you will feel your ‘good vibrations’ and respond with a smile.

Unless they are grumpy sour-faces. Then they will resent you like hell until of course, they ask you why you are so dang happy.

In which case, you can tell them. You can even show them your list, and ask them for their Joy Top Five.

Step 3: Relate in a New Way

When you meet someone new, which YOU do you present? What is the first question you ask?

The first question a lot of people ask is, ‘so, what do you do?’ or ‘what do you study?’ or ‘where are you from?’

It is natural for all of us to be comparing. The ego likes to rank where we stand. We can have the very best intentions, but when we ask about someone’s job, it will be challenging to resist ascribing judgment based on their profession. The same is true for where they come from.

Try it. If I say that I’m an award-winning artist living in New York City, what happens? If I shift to telling you I’m studying astrophysics in Russia, what is your reaction? What about if I answer I am a housekeeper in England?

Now try asking someone about their sources of joy in their daily life. What will happen?

They will most likely answer honestly.

People don’t tend to lie about what brings them delight. You can sense a genuine answer by the way their eyes light up when they talk about their source of joy.

Then you will either find out that you:

1. Share a common source of joy
2. Discover something new and authentic about the person
3. Could try the idea on for yourself

Step 4: Be Brave. Control the Conversation.

Perhaps it’s time to shift the conversation.

The pressure of kicking-butt at work and adding being a source of support and joy to those we love can get intense.

Most of the time, we have a feeling that we are letting someone, or something important in our lives, down. We just know we could or should be a better parent, partner, friend, daughter, son, sibling, employee, entrepreneur, artist, cook, or [insert what matters to you most].

The problem is that the world today is so loud and so busy, that it can all feel overwhelming.

It can feel overwhelmingly negative.

Sure, we’ve all read that optimists live longer, enjoy better health, and attract more friends and success. The problem is that when stress, anxiety, illness, or just pure bad-luck kick in, that extra dose of negative news or interaction with your boss can pitch you into negativity.

Just like joy vibrates outward and is contagious, so too is a dark mood and outlook. Get one person complaining bitterly and watch the conversation take a turn for the worst.

The next time those around you are in a stressed out funk, try shaking them up a bit. Ask them about their favorite time of day, or the last time delight flooded out the noise of pressure and expectation.

Step 5: Yoga Yourself to Opening Up

Why does yoga boost your self-esteem? You start to build an inner fire when you show up every day on your yoga mat. You will feel proud that you commit to practice and follow through, even if this commitment is just ten minutes per day.

With time you will master poses you never thought possible, achieve flexibility you only dreamed of, and gradually slim to a healthy weight. There will be a surge of confidence the first time you kick up into a handstand, or your heels touch the floor in downward dog.

When you start a regular yoga practice you begin to show up for yourself by taking responsibility for your physical, mental, and perhaps spiritual wellness too. By engaging in self-respect, if not self-love, you will raise your self-esteem.


5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself


Bonus: Give Dark Emotions Space to Be.

Yes, you read that correctly. First I told you to write out a joy-list, to add more of those experiences into your life, and to talk more about joy with everyone you meet.

Now I’m telling you to sit on the ground and do nothing.

Yes, I mean literally.

Meditation is a way to open yourself up and to be more of yourself by feeling connected to everyone and everything.

Meditation will unleash your joy in a way nothing else can.

Sitting and watching your thoughts glide past as you focus on your breath will unleash some negative emotions.

The noise and business of life can block out the anger, sadness, shame, and fear. All of those emotions can bubble up while you sit still, in silence. You may have been unaware they were just below the surface.

Do you know what is gorgeous about giving dark emotions space to surface? It may take weeks, or months, or years, but the fear will seep away.

With time, the negative emotions will roll through you without invoking a knee-jerk reaction to smother them with food, entertainment, noise, achievement, work, or positive experiences.

You will be able to allow anger, sadness, pain, and fear to flow in without losing your balance.

You will be able to stop running and to stop grasping, knowing all things pass, and this, whatever it is, will move too.


Step 1: Write your daily, monthly, and year JOY-LISTS.

Step 2: Schedule JOY into your daily life, as well as mini-month joy-cations.

 Step 3: Relate to people in a new way by asking and sharing sources of joy.

Step 4: Turn the conversation to sources of happiness instead of negativity, gossiping, or complaining.

Step 5: Yoga Time: Find a YouTube video or head to your local yoga studio.

Step 6: Meditate. You can start with just five minutes a day to make a difference.


Be yourself. Start opening up and unleash your joy. Opening up is a way to free yourself from, stereotypes. Opening up makes you love yourself more. Opening up makes you become a better person. When you are ready to change, opening up is the best way to start with. Make your life worth it by opening up to the world. Opening up your feelings and being your true self is something you can carry along until you’re older.

Original article by Heather Lenz. heather is a writer, yoga instructor, wellness coach, and CEO of the wellness company Delicious Glow. She wishes you to feel empowered to live your definition of a healthy, happy, and more purpose-filled life.


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Surround Yourself With Positive People At All Times

Shari A. Hembree



Surround Yourself With Positive People

Here’s a powerful message to share this week: Surround Yourself with Positive People. A couple of weeks ago I discussed that “the world is an abundant place,” and since last week’s post, we have been practicing our statements of “I Am.”

So, next I’d like to share this powerful message: Surround yourself with positive people. While this sounds like something we should naturally be doing, there are often people in our lives who distract us from focusing positively. What can we do to change that?

First, ask yourself a couple questions: Do you focus your life in a positive, loving manner to attract people who have your best interests at heart? And do you say no to the people in your life who are negative, destructive, and focused only on their own agendas? Ah . . . the second question is the key!


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What It Means To Be Surrounded By Positive People

Too often, there are well-meaning people in our lives (family members, friends, or even significant others) who love to complain about things, focus negatively, or only contact us when they have a specific agenda to fill. These are the people to whom we need to say a resounding “No!”

I realize that it can be complicated to say no to a family member who loves to go on and on about all the bad things in his or her life. And then there’s the coworker who just loves to focus negatively, expecting the worst from everyone.

The best tool I can offer you here is two-fold: Try to turn the conversation around by speaking about the positive aspects of the situation or ask them to change the subject if you’ve already covered it thoroughly. Repeating the same negative words over and over again will not change anything!

I have many close friends who I’ve known for years, but I am always forming new friendships, too. A couple of years ago, I met a new friend, and at first, we really seemed to connect. We spent many evenings talking about our lives—new jobs, boyfriends, and all the changes that were naturally occurring.

I was in an “unwinding” period; I needed some time to vent, as I let go of some old relationships and prepared myself for the new things entering my life. After a time, I began to notice that our conversations always seemed to be negatively focused. We never finished our complaints to move on to the good things that were happening. She complained about everything—and I just naturally listened as good friends do.

Focus On The Positive Side of Things

After a while, I realized that I was becoming drained and that I needed to focus more positively. I tried to change the topics to a more positive focus, but it didn’t seem to work. Eventually, I gently reminded myself, “Surround yourself with positive people.”

I wasn’t able to change my friend’s behavior, so I started to distance myself from her, choosing instead to spend time with uplifting, fun, and supportive friends. I made a good choice, because as much as I love to help someone, I also realized that, in this particular relationship, I was not being of help to myself. This was an old habit I definitely intended to break.


Surround Yourself With Positive People


If you realize that your friend, family member, or coworker is an “energy drain,” and you can’t positively redirect your encounters, then spending the least amount of time with that person will ultimately benefit you. If that person notices that you are spending less time with them, perhaps that will initiate a shift so that they can try to make some positive changes in their outlook.

Today, I choose to say “Yes!” to the wonderful people, places, and events in my life that are positive and lift me up! I know there will be well-meaning people who focus negatively, but I will do my best to shift their outlook to a more positive one, if possible. I will carefully choose with whom I spend the most time, and these will be the people who inspire me and shine their light in a loving manner.

Thank you, everyone, for your kind and positive thoughts this week! XO Shari A. Hembree, Author

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10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

Sheila J. Highland



10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

Social media and other online platforms are a ubiquitous part of modern life, and the connectivity they provide has done a great deal of good in the world. However, most of us can cite many examples where someone online has been rude or hostile to us, or where we’ve been made to feel bad by a stranger sat at their phone or keyboard many miles away.

Not to mention that irritated feeling you probably get when people on the internet are, y’know, wrong. And many of us probably feel that many of them are wrong much if not most of the time.

10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media


Spiritual Seeker Communities and Social Media

It would be lovely if spiritual people and spiritual communities were somehow immune from the negativity that social media can spawn, but they most definitely are not. I’ve been around spiritual communities online since online was a thing, and in my experience, they are just as full of forcefully opinionated people, who are sometimes rude and hostile to one another, and who sometimes bully other people – often while proclaiming themselves to be ‘love and light’ or the sole holders/understanders of ‘truth’.

After all, spiritual people can hold the same wide spectrum of political, religious and personal views as any other cross-section of society.

Not surprisingly then, for the spiritual seeker there can be a desire to surround oneself only with said love and light – to stay completely away from anyone who spoils the party, social media wise. This, however, would be a mistake.

Negative emotions are just as important as positive ones, and the truly spiritual seek to integrate, work with and heal their own negativity as well as other people’s, rather than closing the doors on their fairy castle and not allowing anyone else in.

It’s also the case that existing in an echo chamber on social media does not help you to learn or grow as a person. Some openness to opposing views is a healthy and necessary thing. And it can be good to share your own understanding and what you have learned. Having said that, it’s also not very ‘spiritual’ to seek to aggressively perpetuate one’s own views, or to denigrate those who hold different views.

So, if it’s not ideal to create your own social media bubble, but nor is it ideal to seek to constantly correct those pesky people who are all wrong, then how can you best interact online as a spiritual being? If you want to maintain your own integrity as a spiritual seeker online (not to mention your own sanity), it can be helpful to adopt a middle way.

Make clear your own views and opinions and make yourself available to anyone who wants to explore those respectfully with you (within your own personal limits/boundaries, obviously). But do not waste your time engaging in pointless, heated debates where you can never win (and nor can your opponent).

Easier said than done? Of course. But it can be done. Everyone will find their own path, but here are 10 tips that have helped me to maintain my own sanity and, I hope, integrity, particularly in recent years:

1 – Not Everyone Will Agree with or Appreciate You – and that’s Fine

Make peace with the fact that not everyone will love your posts or agree with your views. And some of them will make that very, very clear. Most of them, hopefully, will be polite but firm in voicing their disagreement; some will be very rude about it. Most of these latter people would never be so rude or critical to your face, so just accept their desire to be mean from a distance and let it wash over you.

It’s not your problem. For those who politely disagree with you, you may feel frustrated that they don’t get your point, or indignant because you’re right and they’re wrong. Maybe. If they are wrong, perhaps it’s not their time or their path to understand your point right now.

2 – You May Be Wrong

Alternatively, be open to the fact that it could be you who is wrong. If you genuinely cannot countenance such a thought, then you may have ego issues which are beyond the scope of this article – but hopefully you can at least entertain the idea. Think carefully about what has been said in opposition to you. Is there a kernel of truth in it? Check your own research. If you’re positive that you’re right, well OK then. See above point. If, however, there’s even the faintest chance that you could be wrong, learn from that.

Remember, your truth is not necessarily my truth which is not necessarily THE truth. Almost anything can be adopted to suit a given agenda, if you choose the rights stats, assign the right motives, dig back far enough or can formulate a persuasive argument. You may unconsciously be doing this, just as your opponents may be.

3 – Stop Trying to Persuade Strangers on the Internet

When was the last time you think you genuinely changed someone’s mind via an online “debate”? Probably never – you may have ‘won’ an argument if the other person just gave up and went away, but they won’t have accepted what you said, they’ve just found something better to do with their time. No matter how respectful, polite or right you were in what you posted, you’re almost never going to change someone’s actual mind.

While it’s true that collective online campaigns have sometimes achieved impressive things, on a personal level, your personal integrity and your persuasive power is much better used face to face with people you actually know. If you’re passionate about something, take it up locally.

Give talks, give workshops, talk to your neighbours, practice what you preach and be noticed doing it. In real life. Online, you’re probably not convincing anyone of anything much, and trying too hard to do so is not good for your own mental health.



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4 – Is it Necessary to Correct this ‘Wrong’ Person?

If someone is being wrong online, is that really your problem? They’re not persuading anyone either, and they’re not going to listen to you correcting them. Freedom of speech and freedom of expression means we all have the right to be infuriatingly wrong in these kinds of online environments, provided we remain within legal boundaries.

It is really a good use of your time and integrity to add fuel to the fire? Their story. Their lessons. Scroll on by.

5 – Remember, It’s Only a Snapshot of a Moment in Time

When someone replies to you or comments on your social media, their words are a snapshot of what they thought or felt in that second. Even if it’s a friend or someone you know in real life, you may not know what else was going on at the time which caused them to post something critical or seemingly harsh.

If it’s a stranger, you will have no idea at all – but something has prompted it. Maybe they’re ill, maybe they’ve had a really tough day, maybe your post has triggered some hot buttons for them, for reasons you’ll never know and don’t need to know. The point is, it’s not personal. It’s a passing moment. Don’t take it too seriously.

6 – Use Social Media with Purpose

Take a mindful approach to social media, and always have a purpose when you log onto any of your accounts. It doesn’t have to a be particularly lofty purpose – logging on to just chill for ten minutes or to play a game or have a chat; these are all perfectly good purposes to have. But stick to your purpose.

Don’t log on for a five minutes scroll and find yourself still there three hours later with steam coming from your ears as you correct yet another wrong person.

7 – Focus on the More Positive Aspects of Social Media

The many good things about social media – the chance to make genuine new friends, to learn new information and points of view, to find inspiration or to relax – are easily obscured by hostility and negativity.

By choosing to focus on the more positive activities, you can redress the balance in how you feel about your social media tools.

8 – Make Good Use of Social Media Filtering Tools

If there’s a page, group or individual which persistently enrages or exasperates you, unfollow them. Nobody is forcing you to read what is said. Let groups of wrong people be wrong without your attention or input.

Meanwhile individuals who appear to be deliberately goading you or who are aggressive, abusive or threatening should get the chop. This is what the block tool is for. I’m not talking about people who just happen to respectfully disagree with you, but if you have an instinct to block someone, block them. Life is too short to waste time thinking about this.

9 – Balance Your Online Life with Offline Life

Easy one this. Put away the devices, often. Go outside, get active, chill with your family, enjoy a favourite movie or meal, pet your pets. Real life exists out here, not in your device.


10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media


10 – If it Gets Too Much, Delete

If you find yourself feeling truly troubled by social media, de-activate your accounts or delete the apps. Don’t hesitate. You can always go back later if you wish, but you should take immediate action to protect your mental health if you sense that it is a real problem for you – and seek advice from one of the many mental health helplines available.

As a spiritual seeker, whatever you’re ultimately seeking isn’t going to be found on a screen, even though you may find community there, or helpful information at times. In your heart, you know it’s not the full answer. Remove yourself from social media for a while if it becomes toxic, and continue your seeking elsewhere.

Above all, remember that social media and online communities are just convenient tools for spiritual seekers. They are not the world. The world is out there, away from your device, away from your screen. Engage with the online world with integrity but take care that in doing so you are not detracting from your time spent in the real world – and your ability to influence that real world for the better.

Make sure to handle social media like a spiritual seeker. always be mindful at what you post in there. A spiritual seeker is careful what to say in social media. A spiritual seeker knows the boundaries there is when you work on the internet. It is good to note these tips here. it is good to think that when it comes to social media you must be a spiritual seeker too.

Everytime you open your social media accounts, always remember these tips of a spiritual seeker. Make sure to value your words there like a spiritual seeker. Find the courage to be a spiritual seeker when it comes to social media.

Original article by Nikki Harper. She is a spiritualist writer, astrologer, and Wake Up World’s editor.

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