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4 Ways To Prioritize Your Tasks & Do Single-Tasking Not Multitasking

Sheila J. Highland

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4 Ways To Prioritize Your Tasks & Do Single-Tasking Not Multitasking

But the reality is that multitasking only offers the illusion of productivity. Often, this is when stress levels are ramped up and more mistakes are made—which usually ends up taking more time in the long run.

Redefining the juggle.

The clinical (and, let’s be honest, more accurate) term for doing more than one thing at a time is not multitasking but “task-switching,” because in reality, you can’t concentrate on more than one thing at a time. In fact, the American Psychological Association has calculated that all of the task-switching we do and all of the distractions caused by technology can cost a whopping 40% of someone’s productive time.

But by learning to prioritize tasks, minimize distractions, and focus on one thing at a time, you can actually do a better, more thoughtful job—and #bonuspoints, feel calmer at the end of the day.

Mindfulness, which is the ability to fully focus on one thing at a time and be present in the moment, is the opposite of distractedly multitasking—and can be the key to solving it. “I believe it’s the key to a healthier relationship with technology,” says Christina Malecka, a Seattle-based psychotherapist and the founder of Digital Mindfulness Retreats.

A 2016 Case Western Reserve University meta-analysis of previous studies noted that it’s estimated that the human mind wanders for roughly half of our waking hours but that mindfulness has been shown to improve three qualities of attention: stability, control, and efficiency.

 

4 Ways To Prioritize Your Tasks & Do Single-Tasking Not Multitasking

 

Practices like meditation, yoga, tai chi, or journaling “provide a foundation that makes it easier to step back, see the big picture, respond rather than react, and focus on one thing at a time,” Malecka explains. This can help you in every aspect of your life, from home to office. Being mindful can also help you refocus when your day starts to overwhelm you…and we’ve all had those days.

Ready to toss those multitasking habits to the curb? Consider trying some of these other actions to prioritize:

1. Make a master list.

There’s the to-do list in your phone, the one on your at-home calendar, plus several Post-its scattered around the house. “It’s impossible to start prioritizing if you don’t really know all of the things you need to get done,” notes Malecka.

Gather them all, and be sure to include all of those things that swirl in your head and create a knot in your stomach. Many people find this list-making incredibly satisfying and can even help to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety.

2. Learn to prioritize.

Be honest, is No. 5 on your list really that important? And is No. 1 truly urgent? If it’s hard for you to figure out, try using the task-prioritization method called the Eisenhower Matrix, which helps you prioritize tasks by assessing their level of importance and deciding whether they can be delegated or even taken off the list entirely (see below). Then assess what needs to be done today, and back-burner everything else that you can.

The Eisenhower Matrix:

  • Do First: These are urgent things that need to be done ASAP.
  • Do Later: These can be postponed, but do schedule a time to do them.
  • Delegate: It makes more sense to find someone else to do these.
  • Eliminate: These aren’t important and can be crossed off your list.

3. Set aside concentrated blocks of time to focus on one task.

Shut off all unnecessary technology. Close the door. Put on noise-canceling headphones if you work in a busy office. Do whatever it takes to remove unhelpful distractions. You will find you get more accomplished, which will, in turn, reduce your anxiety and increase your feelings of self-satisfaction.

 

4 Ways To Prioritize Your Tasks & Do Single-Tasking Not Multitasking

 

4. Immerse yourself in nature.

Spending time outdoors is an ideal way to help you relax and open your mind to creative thoughts, and yet many of us suffer from what experts have labeled “nature deficit disorder.”

“Nature has the power to transform and awaken us,” says Mark Coleman, a meditation teacher in Marin Country, California, and author of Awake in the Wild: Mindfulness in Nature as a Path of Self-DiscoveryYet in our busy, high-tech lives, we have lost the ability, sensitivity and skill to listen, feel and sense the natural world.”

Original article by Anne Marie O’Connor.

 

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4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance

Shari A. Hembree

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4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance

Here’s an insight into making the world a better place. Let us all learn from the expert…

I was reminded this past week of a very important spiritual concept: The world is an abundant place. The idea of abundance seems straightforward, but do we really believe the idea that there’s more than enough to go around for everyone?

To be abundant means to be plentiful and prosperous—to have enough of what you desire. So why would we choose to view our world from a place of inadequacy or scarcity instead?

Have you found yourself getting up in the morning, then immediately rushing around, and soon you are focusing your attention on what isn’t going right in your day? You become frustrated, and then your day just seems to spiral out of control.

Things seem to keep getting worse as the day progresses, and all because you’re focusing on the “lack” or the negative aspects of your life: what you can’t get done, what went wrong yesterday, and what you aren’t able to accomplish today. You feel you lack an abundance of time to do the things you want to do. To transform that into something positive, I challenge you to say, “The world is an abundant place” and shift your perspective.

It’s true that we all have insanely busy lives these days. There’s so much more to do than our linear view of time will allow us to accomplish. To make matters worse, we desire things we think we’ll never attract because we’re not deserving of them. We think there’s not enough “good stuff” out there to go around, so perhaps focusing on less, not more, is the right solution.

I’d love to change your thoughts to “the world is an abundant place” and help you believe that God intends for you to have everything you desire – love, money, health, time, etc. So how do we change our thought patterns?

Below are some tools in making the world a better place:

 

4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance

 

1. Start your day by taking a deep breath and finding fifteen minutes in the morning to focus your attention on your abundance.

This will be the most important fifteen minutes of your day. Breathe deeply and do a short meditation—be grateful for every wonderful thing you’ve attracted into your life thus far.

2. Think about the positive things you expect to attract.

Notice I use the word “expect”—not what you “would like” to attract. The Law of Attraction dictates that by setting an expectation and then “feeling” that you already have these new things in your life . . . you automatically begin to attract them, because you believe they will occur. This does take a bit of practice, but in the midst of our crazy schedules, it can be a very powerful tool to shift your thoughts and transform your life.

Each evening, take ten minutes to write in a journal of gratitude. Jot down all the things you accomplished that day and the abundance you’ve already attracted into your life. Keep a list of what you expect to attract and plan out steps to make it happen.

For example, if it’s a relationship you desire, write down the wonderful qualities of that special person and how he or she would treat you. Imagine the feeling of being happy because this person has come into your life. Know that person is just around the corner because you deserve him or her! Find meaning in making the world a better place.

3. Be grateful for every person who asks you out on a date—even if he or she does not become ‘the one’ you envision dating.

Write in your journal the wonderful qualities of the person you attracted. Don’t view the person as “lacking” what you desire; instead, appreciate that person’s kindness. Tell them so, too, even if your answer is no.

 

4 Helpful Tools In Making The World A Better Place & Find Abundance

 

4. Write in your gratitude journal every evening to show your appreciation for all the things you’ve attracted thus far.

There is more than enough abundance in the world, and you don’t have to settle for less than you desire! Shine your Light in every situation, and you will attract more of what you desire.

Remember, the world is an abundant place because you opened yourself up to receiving it. You’ll find that making the world a better place is not so hards at all.

Have a week filled with amazing joy and abundance my friends! XO Shari A. Hembree, Author www.shariahembree.com

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6 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself

Sheila J. Highland

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“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein

How much of the time is the authentic YOU showing up in the world?

Do you have a different persona for your work, home life, friends, strangers, and the check-in person at the airport?

Stress, grief, past or current pain or trauma, illness, or anxiety can cause us to retreat inward.

Just like preparing a house to survive the impact of a hurricane, we can close the shutters, protect fragile points of entry, conserve resources, stock up on necessities, and retreat inside.

If you have found yourself hiding the real you from the world, don’t worry. You’re not alone. Unless you are age four or under, crafting an ever-shifting-persona is a natural protection mechanism.

We learn as we grow-up that opening up and being authentic can lead to a slug of pain and a slap of heartache. Intuitively we find out what psychologists have tested to be true: people like those who mimic or mirror their body language. People also find it easier to like those who are similar or share the same interests and passions.

So is it any wonder that all at once everyone is wearing the same color of teal or using the same slang? Is it a surprise that individuals in a group can converge in dress, tastes, interests, and values?

Here are steps to opening up and be more of yourself towards others:

 

5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself

 

Step 1: Find Your Joy

Can you name five concrete experiences that bring you joy?

Joy is delight fused with serenity and evokes a sense of connection to others, nature, or the divine. Joy is playful and generous.

The first step towards opening up and being authentically you is to uncover what brings you joy. List at least five experiences which bring joy into your life on a daily basis.

Next, you can explore and remember what caused a flash of unexpected joy in the past few months. Recall moments of bliss from your life and write them down too.

List at least five surprises which bring joy into your life sporadically.

Be warned against ascribing to your cultural or familial imprinted definitions of delight. Whereas joy for everyone around you could be a rainbow sprinkled ice-cream cone, for you, it could be a cup of tea and dramatic rain clouds shifting across the sky.

Looking for some daily joy-list inspiration? Here’s my daily joy-list:

1. The first sip of espresso in the morning.
2. Strolling barefoot through the dew-covered grass and examining my garden.
3. Laughter or delight (anyone’s around me, or mine).
4. An unexpected bright dash of color and white space.
5. A smile from a someone I don’t know.
6. Hugs.
7. Listening to the rhythmic breath of my sleeping children.
8. Writing.

9. Chocolate and a captivating book.
10. The last ten minutes of yoga.

Looking for some irregular joy-list inspiration? Here’s my sporadic joy-list:

1. Breathing fresh air and taking a break from the digital while hiking up a mountain, or skiing down one.
2. A day spent swimming in the lake and then picnicking on the shore.
3. Seeing someone I love who lives far away again.
4. Dressing up to celebrate someone.
5. Mastering a new skill.
6. Connecting with someone new, or someone dear, in a deeper way.
7. Going dancing.

8. Cutting and arranging fresh-cut flowers or greenery from my garden.
9. Giving the perfect gift or crafting the perfect experience for someone.
10. Spending a day walking and playing in the woods.

Ready to make your own personalized joy-lists?

 

5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself

 

Step 2: Schedule in More Joy Moments

It turns out, you can actually add more joy to your life at little cost. Who knew?

By scheduling more of what brings YOU joy into your life, you will be

illuminating the authentic you; you’ll begin to be more of you with everyone, everywhere you go.

The truth is that joy is contagious. The positive energy bounces off you and out into the world. People around you will feel your ‘good vibrations’ and respond with a smile.

Unless they are grumpy sour-faces. Then they will resent you like hell until of course, they ask you why you are so dang happy.

In which case, you can tell them. You can even show them your list, and ask them for their Joy Top Five.

Step 3: Relate in a New Way

When you meet someone new, which YOU do you present? What is the first question you ask?

The first question a lot of people ask is, ‘so, what do you do?’ or ‘what do you study?’ or ‘where are you from?’

It is natural for all of us to be comparing. The ego likes to rank where we stand. We can have the very best intentions, but when we ask about someone’s job, it will be challenging to resist ascribing judgment based on their profession. The same is true for where they come from.

Try it. If I say that I’m an award-winning artist living in New York City, what happens? If I shift to telling you I’m studying astrophysics in Russia, what is your reaction? What about if I answer I am a housekeeper in England?

Now try asking someone about their sources of joy in their daily life. What will happen?

They will most likely answer honestly.

People don’t tend to lie about what brings them delight. You can sense a genuine answer by the way their eyes light up when they talk about their source of joy.

Then you will either find out that you:

1. Share a common source of joy
2. Discover something new and authentic about the person
3. Could try the idea on for yourself

Step 4: Be Brave. Control the Conversation.

Perhaps it’s time to shift the conversation.

The pressure of kicking-butt at work and adding being a source of support and joy to those we love can get intense.

Most of the time, we have a feeling that we are letting someone, or something important in our lives, down. We just know we could or should be a better parent, partner, friend, daughter, son, sibling, employee, entrepreneur, artist, cook, or [insert what matters to you most].

The problem is that the world today is so loud and so busy, that it can all feel overwhelming.

It can feel overwhelmingly negative.

Sure, we’ve all read that optimists live longer, enjoy better health, and attract more friends and success. The problem is that when stress, anxiety, illness, or just pure bad-luck kick in, that extra dose of negative news or interaction with your boss can pitch you into negativity.

Just like joy vibrates outward and is contagious, so too is a dark mood and outlook. Get one person complaining bitterly and watch the conversation take a turn for the worst.

The next time those around you are in a stressed out funk, try shaking them up a bit. Ask them about their favorite time of day, or the last time delight flooded out the noise of pressure and expectation.

Step 5: Yoga Yourself to Opening Up

Why does yoga boost your self-esteem? You start to build an inner fire when you show up every day on your yoga mat. You will feel proud that you commit to practice and follow through, even if this commitment is just ten minutes per day.

With time you will master poses you never thought possible, achieve flexibility you only dreamed of, and gradually slim to a healthy weight. There will be a surge of confidence the first time you kick up into a handstand, or your heels touch the floor in downward dog.

When you start a regular yoga practice you begin to show up for yourself by taking responsibility for your physical, mental, and perhaps spiritual wellness too. By engaging in self-respect, if not self-love, you will raise your self-esteem.

 

5 Steps to Unleashing Joy, Opening Up, & Being More Yourself

 

Step 6: Give Dark Emotions Space to Be.

Yes, you read that correctly. First I told you to write out a joy-list, to add more of those experiences into your life, and to talk more about joy with everyone you meet.

Now I’m telling you to sit on the ground and do nothing.

Yes, I mean literally.

Meditation is a way to open yourself up and to be more of yourself by feeling connected to everyone and everything.

Meditation will unleash your joy in a way nothing else can.

Sitting and watching your thoughts glide past as you focus on your breath will unleash some negative emotions.

The noise and business of life can block out the anger, sadness, shame, and fear. All of those emotions can bubble up while you sit still, in silence. You may have been unaware they were just below the surface.

Do you know what is gorgeous about giving dark emotions space to surface? It may take weeks, or months, or years, but the fear will seep away.

With time, the negative emotions will roll through you without invoking a knee-jerk reaction to smother them with food, entertainment, noise, achievement, work, or positive experiences.

You will be able to allow anger, sadness, pain, and fear to flow in without losing your balance.

You will be able to stop running and to stop grasping, knowing all things pass, and this, whatever it is, will move too.

TAKE ACTION:

Step 1: Write your daily, monthly, and year JOY-LISTS.

Step 2: Schedule JOY into your daily life, as well as mini-month joy-cations.

 Step 3: Relate to people in a new way by asking and sharing sources of joy.

Step 4: Turn the conversation to sources of happiness instead of negativity, gossiping, or complaining.

Step 5: Yoga Time: Find a YouTube video or head to your local yoga studio.

Step 6: Meditate. You can start with just five minutes a day to make a difference.

 

Be yourself. Start opening up and unleash your joy. Opening up is a way to free yourself from, stereotypes. Opening up makes you love yourself more. Opening up makes you become a better person. When you are ready to change, opening up is the best way to start with. Make your life worth it by opening up to the world. Opening up your feelings and being your true self is something you can carry along until you’re older.

Original article by Heather Lenz. heather is a writer, yoga instructor, wellness coach, and CEO of the wellness company Delicious Glow. She wishes you to feel empowered to live your definition of a healthy, happy, and more purpose-filled life.

 

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Surround Yourself With Positive People At All Times

Shari A. Hembree

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Surround Yourself With Positive People

Here’s a powerful message to share this week: Surround Yourself with Positive People. A couple of weeks ago I discussed that “the world is an abundant place,” and since last week’s post, we have been practicing our statements of “I Am.”

So, next I’d like to share this powerful message: Surround yourself with positive people. While this sounds like something we should naturally be doing, there are often people in our lives who distract us from focusing positively. What can we do to change that?

First, ask yourself a couple questions: Do you focus your life in a positive, loving manner to attract people who have your best interests at heart? And do you say no to the people in your life who are negative, destructive, and focused only on their own agendas? Ah . . . the second question is the key!

 

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What It Means To Be Surrounded By Positive People

Too often, there are well-meaning people in our lives (family members, friends, or even significant others) who love to complain about things, focus negatively, or only contact us when they have a specific agenda to fill. These are the people to whom we need to say a resounding “No!”

I realize that it can be complicated to say no to a family member who loves to go on and on about all the bad things in his or her life. And then there’s the coworker who just loves to focus negatively, expecting the worst from everyone.

The best tool I can offer you here is two-fold: Try to turn the conversation around by speaking about the positive aspects of the situation or ask them to change the subject if you’ve already covered it thoroughly. Repeating the same negative words over and over again will not change anything!

I have many close friends who I’ve known for years, but I am always forming new friendships, too. A couple of years ago, I met a new friend, and at first, we really seemed to connect. We spent many evenings talking about our lives—new jobs, boyfriends, and all the changes that were naturally occurring.

I was in an “unwinding” period; I needed some time to vent, as I let go of some old relationships and prepared myself for the new things entering my life. After a time, I began to notice that our conversations always seemed to be negatively focused. We never finished our complaints to move on to the good things that were happening. She complained about everything—and I just naturally listened as good friends do.

Focus On The Positive Side of Things

After a while, I realized that I was becoming drained and that I needed to focus more positively. I tried to change the topics to a more positive focus, but it didn’t seem to work. Eventually, I gently reminded myself, “Surround yourself with positive people.”

I wasn’t able to change my friend’s behavior, so I started to distance myself from her, choosing instead to spend time with uplifting, fun, and supportive friends. I made a good choice, because as much as I love to help someone, I also realized that, in this particular relationship, I was not being of help to myself. This was an old habit I definitely intended to break.

 

Surround Yourself With Positive People

 

If you realize that your friend, family member, or coworker is an “energy drain,” and you can’t positively redirect your encounters, then spending the least amount of time with that person will ultimately benefit you. If that person notices that you are spending less time with them, perhaps that will initiate a shift so that they can try to make some positive changes in their outlook.

Today, I choose to say “Yes!” to the wonderful people, places, and events in my life that are positive and lift me up! I know there will be well-meaning people who focus negatively, but I will do my best to shift their outlook to a more positive one, if possible. I will carefully choose with whom I spend the most time, and these will be the people who inspire me and shine their light in a loving manner.

Thank you, everyone, for your kind and positive thoughts this week! XO Shari A. Hembree, Author www.shariahembree.com

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10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

Sheila J. Highland

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10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

Social media and other online platforms are a ubiquitous part of modern life, and the connectivity they provide has done a great deal of good in the world. However, most of us can cite many examples where someone online has been rude or hostile to us, or where we’ve been made to feel bad by a stranger sat at their phone or keyboard many miles away.

Not to mention that irritated feeling you probably get when people on the internet are, y’know, wrong. And many of us probably feel that many of them are wrong much if not most of the time.

10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

 

Spiritual Seeker Communities and Social Media

It would be lovely if spiritual people and spiritual communities were somehow immune from the negativity that social media can spawn, but they most definitely are not. I’ve been around spiritual communities online since online was a thing, and in my experience, they are just as full of forcefully opinionated people, who are sometimes rude and hostile to one another, and who sometimes bully other people – often while proclaiming themselves to be ‘love and light’ or the sole holders/understanders of ‘truth’.

After all, spiritual people can hold the same wide spectrum of political, religious and personal views as any other cross-section of society.

Not surprisingly then, for the spiritual seeker there can be a desire to surround oneself only with said love and light – to stay completely away from anyone who spoils the party, social media wise. This, however, would be a mistake.

Negative emotions are just as important as positive ones, and the truly spiritual seek to integrate, work with and heal their own negativity as well as other people’s, rather than closing the doors on their fairy castle and not allowing anyone else in.

It’s also the case that existing in an echo chamber on social media does not help you to learn or grow as a person. Some openness to opposing views is a healthy and necessary thing. And it can be good to share your own understanding and what you have learned. Having said that, it’s also not very ‘spiritual’ to seek to aggressively perpetuate one’s own views, or to denigrate those who hold different views.

So, if it’s not ideal to create your own social media bubble, but nor is it ideal to seek to constantly correct those pesky people who are all wrong, then how can you best interact online as a spiritual being? If you want to maintain your own integrity as a spiritual seeker online (not to mention your own sanity), it can be helpful to adopt a middle way.

Make clear your own views and opinions and make yourself available to anyone who wants to explore those respectfully with you (within your own personal limits/boundaries, obviously). But do not waste your time engaging in pointless, heated debates where you can never win (and nor can your opponent).

Easier said than done? Of course. But it can be done. Everyone will find their own path, but here are 10 tips that have helped me to maintain my own sanity and, I hope, integrity, particularly in recent years:

1 – Not Everyone Will Agree with or Appreciate You – and that’s Fine

Make peace with the fact that not everyone will love your posts or agree with your views. And some of them will make that very, very clear. Most of them, hopefully, will be polite but firm in voicing their disagreement; some will be very rude about it. Most of these latter people would never be so rude or critical to your face, so just accept their desire to be mean from a distance and let it wash over you.

It’s not your problem. For those who politely disagree with you, you may feel frustrated that they don’t get your point, or indignant because you’re right and they’re wrong. Maybe. If they are wrong, perhaps it’s not their time or their path to understand your point right now.

2 – You May Be Wrong

Alternatively, be open to the fact that it could be you who is wrong. If you genuinely cannot countenance such a thought, then you may have ego issues which are beyond the scope of this article – but hopefully you can at least entertain the idea. Think carefully about what has been said in opposition to you. Is there a kernel of truth in it? Check your own research. If you’re positive that you’re right, well OK then. See above point. If, however, there’s even the faintest chance that you could be wrong, learn from that.

Remember, your truth is not necessarily my truth which is not necessarily THE truth. Almost anything can be adopted to suit a given agenda, if you choose the rights stats, assign the right motives, dig back far enough or can formulate a persuasive argument. You may unconsciously be doing this, just as your opponents may be.

3 – Stop Trying to Persuade Strangers on the Internet

When was the last time you think you genuinely changed someone’s mind via an online “debate”? Probably never – you may have ‘won’ an argument if the other person just gave up and went away, but they won’t have accepted what you said, they’ve just found something better to do with their time. No matter how respectful, polite or right you were in what you posted, you’re almost never going to change someone’s actual mind.

While it’s true that collective online campaigns have sometimes achieved impressive things, on a personal level, your personal integrity and your persuasive power is much better used face to face with people you actually know. If you’re passionate about something, take it up locally.

Give talks, give workshops, talk to your neighbours, practice what you preach and be noticed doing it. In real life. Online, you’re probably not convincing anyone of anything much, and trying too hard to do so is not good for your own mental health.

 

 

10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

 

4 – Is it Necessary to Correct this ‘Wrong’ Person?

If someone is being wrong online, is that really your problem? They’re not persuading anyone either, and they’re not going to listen to you correcting them. Freedom of speech and freedom of expression means we all have the right to be infuriatingly wrong in these kinds of online environments, provided we remain within legal boundaries.

It is really a good use of your time and integrity to add fuel to the fire? Their story. Their lessons. Scroll on by.

5 – Remember, It’s Only a Snapshot of a Moment in Time

When someone replies to you or comments on your social media, their words are a snapshot of what they thought or felt in that second. Even if it’s a friend or someone you know in real life, you may not know what else was going on at the time which caused them to post something critical or seemingly harsh.

If it’s a stranger, you will have no idea at all – but something has prompted it. Maybe they’re ill, maybe they’ve had a really tough day, maybe your post has triggered some hot buttons for them, for reasons you’ll never know and don’t need to know. The point is, it’s not personal. It’s a passing moment. Don’t take it too seriously.

6 – Use Social Media with Purpose

Take a mindful approach to social media, and always have a purpose when you log onto any of your accounts. It doesn’t have to a be particularly lofty purpose – logging on to just chill for ten minutes or to play a game or have a chat; these are all perfectly good purposes to have. But stick to your purpose.

Don’t log on for a five minutes scroll and find yourself still there three hours later with steam coming from your ears as you correct yet another wrong person.

7 – Focus on the More Positive Aspects of Social Media

The many good things about social media – the chance to make genuine new friends, to learn new information and points of view, to find inspiration or to relax – are easily obscured by hostility and negativity.

By choosing to focus on the more positive activities, you can redress the balance in how you feel about your social media tools.

8 – Make Good Use of Social Media Filtering Tools

If there’s a page, group or individual which persistently enrages or exasperates you, unfollow them. Nobody is forcing you to read what is said. Let groups of wrong people be wrong without your attention or input.

Meanwhile individuals who appear to be deliberately goading you or who are aggressive, abusive or threatening should get the chop. This is what the block tool is for. I’m not talking about people who just happen to respectfully disagree with you, but if you have an instinct to block someone, block them. Life is too short to waste time thinking about this.

9 – Balance Your Online Life with Offline Life

Easy one this. Put away the devices, often. Go outside, get active, chill with your family, enjoy a favourite movie or meal, pet your pets. Real life exists out here, not in your device.

 

10 Tips How a Spiritual Seeker Handles Social Media

 

10 – If it Gets Too Much, Delete

If you find yourself feeling truly troubled by social media, de-activate your accounts or delete the apps. Don’t hesitate. You can always go back later if you wish, but you should take immediate action to protect your mental health if you sense that it is a real problem for you – and seek advice from one of the many mental health helplines available.

As a spiritual seeker, whatever you’re ultimately seeking isn’t going to be found on a screen, even though you may find community there, or helpful information at times. In your heart, you know it’s not the full answer. Remove yourself from social media for a while if it becomes toxic, and continue your seeking elsewhere.

Above all, remember that social media and online communities are just convenient tools for spiritual seekers. They are not the world. The world is out there, away from your device, away from your screen. Engage with the online world with integrity but take care that in doing so you are not detracting from your time spent in the real world – and your ability to influence that real world for the better.

Make sure to handle social media like a spiritual seeker. always be mindful at what you post in there. A spiritual seeker is careful what to say in social media. A spiritual seeker knows the boundaries there is when you work on the internet. It is good to note these tips here. it is good to think that when it comes to social media you must be a spiritual seeker too.

Everytime you open your social media accounts, always remember these tips of a spiritual seeker. Make sure to value your words there like a spiritual seeker. Find the courage to be a spiritual seeker when it comes to social media.

Original article by Nikki Harper. She is a spiritualist writer, astrologer, and Wake Up World’s editor.

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5 Powerful Steps to Self-Respect You Need Right Now

Tara Christie

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5 Powerful Steps to Self-Respect You Need Right Now

Your self-esteem is a reflection of your perceived value. If you do not have a positive self-image, your motivation to achieve great things diminishes. It is how you value self-respect that matters.

When analyzing the driving factor behind your decisions, there is one common denominator that many people overlook: your self-esteem. Your self-esteem is a reflection of your perceived value. If you do not have a positive self-image, your motivation to achieve great things diminishes. Because of this, it is important to work on empowering yourself to better action your goals.

People suffering from low self-esteem are probably wondering ‘where do I start?’ The key to improving your self-esteem is to gradually take steps towards repairing a negative self-image. Over time, these seemingly small steps will become a habit and create greater self-worth.

5 Powerful Steps to Improve Self-Respect

 

5 Powerful Steps to Self-Respect You Need Right Now

1. Understand Where You Are.

The first step to improving your self-esteem is to understand your current mentality. It takes courage to realize your negative thought patterns and honestly evaluate how you truly feel about yourself. Figure out what triggers your negative self-image so you can begin to change the narrative.

You can write down your innermost thoughts and your entries will eventually reveal your current thought patterns. Journaling also helps you see the transition from your old mindset to a more positive outlook over time.

2. Change the Narrative.

You are either the captain or the captive of your thoughts.~ Denis Waitley, The Psychology of Winning

After you’ve determined what causes your negative thought patterns, the next step is changing the narrative. Because your perception determines your actions, the story you’ve been telling yourself has to change to encourage a more positive thought process.

A great way to reprogram your subconscious is through affirmations. Research indicates that repeatedly writing down positive personality traits even helps regulate depression.

If you suffer from lower self-respect, initially believing affirmations can be challenging. To see realistic changes, begin with affirmations like:

I am going to… and fill in the blank.

For instance, instead of saying I am a millionaire, saying: I am going to be successful in the near future better motivates you to follow through with a goal.

3. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others.

With millions of people regularly using social media, it can be easy to get caught up in comparison. Social comparison theory involves evaluating self-worth based on how one measures up to another.

While this can sometimes be seen as motivation to improve on minor insecurities, many cases have a negative impact. For instance, comparing yourself to a celebrity or someone with a large social media following can make you feel inferior and lead to self-destructive behaviors.

Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable.~ Denis Waitley

If you decide to use social media, instead of watching other profiles to bring yourself down, use their positive characteristics as motivation to improve yourself.

 

5 Powerful Steps to Self-Respect You Need Right Now

 

4. Learn To Accept Compliments for Self-Respect

How receptive are you to positive feedback? Your ability to accept compliments has a direct correlation to your self esteem. At times, this can stem from how much reassurance you received as a child.

To overcome negative self-image, you must make a habit of accepting compliments from people, even if it initially makes you uncomfortable. Eventually, you will repel fewer compliments and create a cycle of positive thought patterns that inspire better decisions worthy of more compliments.

5. Develop Your Gifts.

One of the greatest ways to improve your self-respect is by working on your talents. Most children have special skills, whether it’s sports, art, singing, or dancing. By working towards achieving your goals, you can focus on your positive aspects and use small triumphs to motivate you to accomplish greater goals, which causes even higher self-esteem.

No matter where you are in life, it is important to embrace the positive characteristics you possess. Raising your self-image is a pivotal step in achieving your goals and dreams.

Once you begin building up your self-esteem, there will be nothing you cannot accomplish.

Original article by Emily  Burton. She is a freelance writer interested in healthy living, family life, and personal development. Other than writing, she works as a full-time stay-at-home mom. She has called the greater Phoenix area home her whole life and enjoys the everyday craziness at home with her husband and two sons.

 

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3 Mantras to Focus On Yourself & Build Self-Love

Sheila J. Highland

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3 Mantras to Focus On Yourself & Build Self-Love

When you want to develop self-love, you need to focus on yourself. here are mantras you can practice to improve self-love.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” Buddha.

Self-love. We all need more of it.

The teachings of yoga are big on self-love because of one spiritual truth: you cannot fully love others until you fully love yourself.

And why should we love ourselves? That’s what our ego so often asks. So much of the time we have very little self-compassion for our own vulnerabilities and fears.

But, these “negative” aspects of ourselves are merely part of being human. We come into this world as little innocents, afraid of nothing and curious about everything. It’s the experiences and traumas of life that create our fears and vulnerabilities.

We can use yoga and mantra meditation to see them for what they are, and cultivate self-love for ourselves so that we can live from our souls—our place of truth—free from fear and full of unconditional love.

Then we can help others do the same, by seeing them for who they are—spiritual beings in a physical body, riding the ups and downs of this roller coaster called life.

All that said, how do we cultivate more self-love?

 

3 Mantras to Focus On Yourself & Build Self-Love

 

One effective way is through the profound practice of mantra meditation. Mantras specifically designed to cultivate self-love are some of the most effective yogic tools for creating lasting grooves in our minds and hearts.

Grooves that tell us we’re beautiful, lovable, and enough—just as we are.

A little time spent each day practicing mantras to build your self-love will work wonders! Not only will you come to know that you’re innately lovable, you’ll also see the exact same love in everyone you meet.

Why Do Mantras Work?

Mantras are healing tools for the mind, and when you repeat a mantra, you shift your brain state and transform your state of awareness. When you still the mind during mantra meditation, you open up space for the mantra to plant its seeds within your consciousness.

The more you do it, the stronger those seeds grow. And eventually, your mind becomes a beautiful garden of loving thoughts. This is the power of mantras.

3 Mantras to Focus on Yourself & Build Your Self-love

No two people will ever live the same life story. This makes each and every one of us unique. You are a collection of unique talents, and no one on the entire planet is exactly like you. Only you have that special something to offer the world that no one else has.

When you truly understand this truth within your heart, then you can come to cherish the beauty in yourself (and others) in every moment.

We’re going to explore three mantras to embed this sense of knowing deep into our state of awareness.

1. Aieem namah– “My true nature is love and joy.”

This mantra opens your awareness to the true essence of who you are. You are the source of all strength, love, and joy. Let this mantra sink in, as you prepare yourself to sit in meditation.

As you sit, repeat the mantra over and over—out loud, or in your mind’s eye. You can repeat the mantra in Sanskrit, or in English—whichever resonates in the moment.

Every moment is different. Some days, you may prefer English, others Sanskrit. Listen to what you want, and let your soul be your guide.

2. Aham brahmasmi– “I am wholeness.”

You are whole—just as you are. Nothing needs to be added. Nothing needs to be taken away. Build your self-love by meditating with this mantra for a few minutes each day.

With time, you’ll come to rest in this state of inner knowing and self-love. As you repeat the aham brahmasmi mantra, allow each repetition to guide you into an expanded state of awareness. With time, you’ll understand just how whole and complete you truly are.

3. Aham prema– “I am love.”

We’re all on this planet to express every aspect of love that exists. All it takes is a tiny shift in the way we see ourselves in order to live from a state of pure love. And this is what happens when you repeat aham prema. You shift the way you see yourself on a profound level—from your state of deep awareness.

Unlock your kind, open, and generous heart with this mantra for self-love. The poet Tagore wrote that love is the only reality, and the only truth that lies at the very heart of creation. This mantra takes us to our true Self, our source, which is divine love.

To connect with love as the quality of your true spirit, repeat this mantra in Sanskrit or English for a few minutes each day.

 

3 Mantras to Focus On Yourself & Build Self-Love

 

Supercharge with a Mala

To supercharge these mantras, get yourself a beautiful set of mala beads and use them to practice your mantra 108 times whenever you sit. This is the holy number, the one that’s said to be sacred and auspicious. If your mind wanders, simply bring it back to the mantra, and to the beads.

This is your practice. Allow it to fill you with profound states of peace, compassion, and of course—self-love.

 

Love yourself. Focus on yourself. Build self-love by means of these mantras. It is not so hard to focus on yourself and love your being. It is you and you are special. AS you grow older and move along in life, it is important to focus on yourself more.

Original article by Aimee Hughes. She is an advanced yogi (21 years) and mindfulness enthusiast. She earned her B.A. in French from Tulane University and then Doctor of Naturopathy (ND) credentials from Clayton College.

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